10 Steps to Meeting Your Perfect Mate in 2006

1.                Know yourself.  What are you looking for and why?  In the upcoming year do you want to be in a casual dating relationship or are you looking to begin dating a serious prospect.  What is your ultimate goal?  The first step in reaching a goal is to determine what that goal is. 

2.                Do you have anything from your past interfering with your ability to be in a good relationship?  For some people to be prepared to be in a serious intimate relationship they need to let go of old issues.  Do you have any hidden or lingering feelings to deal with?  Are you willing to do what you need to, to let go and move forward with your life?

3.                Are you putting your best foot forward when you date?  This question is all about how you feel about yourself.  Would you be happier if you were in better shape, or if you had your personal affairs in better shape?  Finding success in dating often happens when people are in a positive frame of mind.  If there are issues that are bothering you about your life or yourself, what can you do this year to bring them more into focus?

4.                What steps are you willing to take to meet a new partner?   Many people have strong ideas about the right way to meet a partner.  What are yours and are you willing to expand yours?  Consider dating online, or joining organizations that you have an interest in.  Make this a year of getting out of your comfort zone and try something new!

5.                Asking for help.  Your friends and loved ones know you the best; if theyre willing to introduce you to others this can be a great way to meet new people.  It also offers you some support along the way.

6.                Set some goals for yourself that you feel you can reach.  If in 2002 you went on five dates, set a goal to double that number.  Remember dating is the process of meeting new people to see if there is chemistry.  It takes time and numbers to reach your goal.  Remind yourself of this if you feel disappointed that it hasnt happened yet.

7.                Pay attention to you internal clock.  If youve been dating a lot and youre feeling discouraged take a break!  Once you begin feeling negative about dating this will show in your experiences. Take a breather to look at your expectations and give yourself some time to regenerate. Once you are feeling better, try and try again. The person you are seeking is out there, it just may take some time.

8.                Keep a positive attitude about dating.  There are 6 billion people on this planet, and you likely have several soul mates out there.

9.                As you are going through this process be good to yourself.  Treat yourself to things that encourage you to feel good about yourself.  This doesnt mean that you have to spend money on yourself; you can get just as good of a feeling from allowing yourself a full nights sleep as you do from going to dinner with friends.  Remember that 99% of finding a partner is about you and how you feel about yourself.  Confidence in yourself is rated time and again the most attractive quality in a person.  Dont forget it! 

10.            And lastly, have fun!  Dating is meant to be an enjoyable process of learning about who and what makes you happy.  Enjoy the discovery process and this time next year youll be ringing in the New Year with a loving partner by your side.

 and remember... the APollo-A gang is here for you if you're dateless... ;)